Many companies want you to think that their goods, which are like an avalanche, will help you stay in bed longer. Even though things like freezing sprays, specialty condoms, and special ointments can make your sexual encounters last longer, they have their own major drawbacks. One is that you have to keep depending on them every time you want to have sex. They are not a lasting solution; they are just a "band-aid" for now.
Using Arousal Control to Make It Last Longer
The best way to make sex last longer is to keep yourself from getting too excited. Before you can reach this sexual goal, you need to know the four steps of male sexual arousal. Arousal refers to the feelings you have when you are physically aroused. If you pay close attention to how your body acts during these four stages, you will be able to control how long each stage lasts and get the most out of sex.
(Simplified) The Stages of Sexual Arousal
In short, stage one is when your penis starts to get an erection. Stage two is when your excitement starts to get stronger and your erection gets bigger, but you're still in control. In stage three, the desire gets stronger, your penis glans get bigger and more sensitive, and you are almost ready to ejaculate. This all comes to a head in the fourth stage, when your nerve system flips, causing your perineal muscles to tighten and ejaculate.
To stay in bed longer, you need to make each of the four steps last as long as you can. "Premature ejaculators" can go from stage one to stage four in less than a minute, while those with more stamina can make love for an hour or more.
Stage two is the most important of the four stages of excitement. This means that you should try to stay in stage two as long as possible. Once you reach stage three, it's almost impossible to go back, even if your mother walks into your room.
How to Reach "Arousal Longevity"
So, how do you make it through step two? Simple: by letting your whole body and mind rest. The key is to focus on giving instead of getting. Re-read that! That's how important it is.
You should only focus on giving your woman sexual joy by touching, caressing, and stimulating the parts of her body that she loves to be touched. Every woman is different, so you have to find out where these differences are. By not focusing on your own private pleasure, you can stay in stage two for as long as you want, until your partner is ready to have sexual contact.
Who wrote the book:
Lloyd Lester wrote "Ejaculation By Command," which is a full, step-by-step plan to help guys stop ejaculating too soon and stay in bed longer. Visit Ejaculation By Command to learn how to improve your sexual stamina and enjoy transformative sex.