Men feel more confident when they can make sex last as long as they want. Mother Nature often has other plans, though. From an evolutionary point of view, men are built to ejaculate quickly when they are with a woman. But that doesn't mean that every time you kiss the woman you love, you have to settle for quick, unsatisfying sex.
Your sexual endurance is NOT written in stone. Early ejaculation CAN be stopped, and it's not too hard to do so. And that doesn't mean you should count on pills, gels, or sprays that claim to help you stay strong (these aren't even long-term solutions!).
Instead, pay attention to these two simple, tried-and-true tips. If you do, you will avoid embarrassment for the rest of your life and find love that lasts.
"Refractory Incentive" is the first strategy.
If you have already ejaculated in the last hour or two, you will probably notice that you can't do it again. Take advantage of that time when nothing happens. If you plan to make out with your partner, let yourself have a first orgasm by masturbating a few hours before making out. This makes your penis glans less sensitive to sexual stimulation and makes it easier for you to keep yourself from getting too excited. This takes a little bit of planning, but it will pay off BIG TIME and help you last a lot longer in bed (and she'll be very grateful, too!).
"Cognitive Re-positioning" is the second strategy.
Change the way you think about making love when you do it. Your mental cues are a big part of how long you can last and, on the other hand, how fast you will come. You see, when they are in bed with their women, a lot of guys feel at least a little bit of performance anxiety. They don't want to show up too soon and let down their friends. In a strange way, this way of thinking sets up many guys to fail right from the start. "You think, therefore you are" is an old saying. This is true in every part of our lives, even when we're making love.
So instead of thinking about ejaculating too soon, try "full-body" sensuality instead of "genital-centric" sex. Don't rely on your penis alone to make your woman happy. Connect with her on an emotional level, use foreplay a lot, and give her a great warm-up for intercourse. This will make you a LOT more confident in bed and keep you from ejaculating too soon.
Who wrote the book:
Lloyd Lester wrote "Ejaculation By Command," which is a full, step-by-step plan to help guys stop ejaculating too soon and stay in bed longer. Visit Ejaculation By Command to learn how to improve your sexual stamina and enjoy transformative sex.